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Another storm update - what would you do??

October 29th, 2012 at 08:10 pm

3:27 pm. After viewing alarming photos of flooding in Atlantic City, I called my dad again to see how he's doing and got his answering machine. So then I called my half-brother, who lives in Rutherford, NJ. I wanted to see if my dad had chosen to go there. My half-brother told me my dad, who I knew had planned on staying at home, was ordered to do a mandatory evacuation by the police, and he left about 2:30 pman hour ago to head to my brother's, which I believe is an hour and a half drive.

I'm feeling pretty angry at my dad right now for foolishly choosing to stay, and then having to leave at the height of the storm...with his macular degeneration! He can't see at night, I know that, and now he's got to drive in these conditions? Now I'm sick with worry something will happen on the road somewhere.

I am going to call the police down there. My dad probably neglected to mention his vision problems to them.

3:43 pm The police said all they can really do is send an officer by my dad's house to see if he actually left. I described the car, etc. I'm pretty sure he did since that's what my brother told me. The officer described the weather situation down there as being "out of control," and said the drive to my brother's would probably take 3 hours in this weather. I'm hoping my dad might have the good sense to find a restaurant (if there's one open?) and hunker down.

4:05 pm The Ocean Gate NJ police called me back and said he definitely left the house. They asked me if I wanted to put out a Silver Alert for my dad. I guess it's similar to an Amber Alert except its for seniors. I told them let me wait a while and see if he shows up at my brother's place. I say that because my dad would be absolutely furious with me if he found out I'd done that, or if he was pulled over by state police because of me! I guess it would be embarrassing for him, but given the circumstances....

What would you do?

4:10 pm OK UPDATE My brother called and said my dad reached my other brother's place. I asked for him to call me when he can. Thank God.

4:15 pm My dad called me back right away. I sensed a note of testiness in his voice when he asked what I wanted, and i explained I'd gotten worried after not being able to reach him at home. He didn't say anything about the mandatory evacuation, but said "I decided to leave" after he lost power. Hmph.

I feel a littel stupid now, maybe, for calling the police, but wouldn't you do the same thing? He thinks he can always handle everything, but the fact is, he's a 79-year-old man with poor vision and he's not so steady on his feet. I just hope he never learns what I did, or that the police mention macular degeneration to him, but at the same time, maybe they should know. They routinely check on seniors at times like this.

19 Responses to “Another storm update - what would you do??”

  1. ceejay74 Says:

    Omigod. SO scary. I had a sick feeling in my stomach until I got to the last line. Very happy for you that your dad is OK. Hope everyone remains safe and well for the rest of the storm now!

  2. NJDebbie Says:

    Thank God he is safe!

  3. HouseHopeful Says:

    I was surprised earlier to see your dad was staying. I understand not wanting to leave his home, but safety is primary in these situations. I am really glad that he made it to your brother's place safe. Given how the media makes any weather into a catastrophy, I wasn't sure how bad this was going to be. Now I know, its definately getting nasty.

  4. ThriftoRama Says:

    I'm glad this turned out well. I know how stressful this is. I have many many friends who never evacuate, then I lose track of them while they're foolishly out in the storm somewhere when it's really bad.

  5. PNW Mom Says:

    Oh my goodness....I think you did the right thing....glad he is safe!

  6. starfishy Says:

    not stupid at all for you to worry and call the police. stupid of your father to wait so long to leave (no offense to your father of course). the jersey shore is getting pummeled!

  7. Petunia in a Flower Garden Says:

    Yes, you did the right thing. You have very good reasons to be concerned. Glad he's safe.

  8. creditcardfree Says:

    I think you handled it very well. Now you can relax a bit more. Stay safe!!

  9. LuckyRobin Says:

    All's well that ends well, I suppose. I'm glad you were able to track him down. I would have been worried about any family members in the way of that storm, especially elderly ones.

  10. wowitsawonderfullife Says:

    I would have done the same thing. My parents would have been furious!

  11. Analise Says:

    I'm with you... you love your father and you were just looking out for him. It's good to know he made to your other brother's home. What an ordeal for you, though, wondering and worrying. Stay safe.

  12. My English Castle Says:

    You did the right thing. Safety more important than a little testiness.

  13. FrugalTexan75 Says:

    I agree - you did the right thing. I'd rather have a family member angry with me than lost or hurt in a storm.

  14. snafu Says:

    I fully understand your worry, the CNN pictures are really scary. I too think your dad's actions were reckless and not well thought out. Seniors can't take big risks and he was very fortunate to have a good outcome.

    Hang on to your hat because dad could easily loose his driver's license and have very limited options if the officer follows up on notice of his driving with some level of [sight] impairment. The insurance company can refuse dad coverage based on a medical submission. Dad may be furious with you but if he should be restricted to daylight driving your action may be life saving.

  15. Thrifty Ray Says:

    I would have done what you did. Thankfully your dad is safe.

  16. Ima saver Says:

    Glad everything turned out alright!

  17. librarylady Says:

    I go by this saying sometimes. "Ask for forgiveness, not permission."
    I'm glad to hear he's okay. Keep us posted, if possible, on how you are doing.

  18. CB in the City Says:

    I'm with everyone else. He took a big risk; you showed proper concern. Done.

  19. Looking Forward Says:

    You were right to be worried. Glad your stubborn dad made it safely to your brother's house!

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