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Feeling glum, but friends lifted my spirits

January 26th, 2011 at 09:55 pm

These last few days i've really nosedived in terms of my mental outlook. It was a combination of my employment situation, exacerbated by the water damage caused by ice dams. I've been up on that ladder daily trying to chip away that ice, but it's hard, because the ladder's not tall enough and so i'm attempting to chip with a hatchett with my arm fully extended over my head. I can't even look directly at what i'm doing or i'll get ice chips flying in my eyes.

On top of that, still having trouble getting my health coverage thru COBRA "active" because they haven't processed the paperwork yet (even tho i informed the company twice in mid and late December that i would definitely be wanting COBRA come Jan. 1). I already had to reschedule a doctor's appointment so as to give the COBRA administrator and health insurance company time to process what they need to process; i called today and still not active. The doc appt is on Friday. I can't put it off much longer becus i need to renew a medication i'm on for the MS and doc won't renew it for another year unless i see him.


My friend Michael called and managed to assure me the situation with the ice dam is not that bad and probably won't require knocking out walls, etc. and he doubts mold will be an issue. Not that he's an expert, but it made me feel better not to hear the doom and gloom I read about when researching all this online.

I also touched base with an acquaintance in town, a guy who's very "handy," whom i would trust to replace some sheetrock and do some repairs without ripping me off.

And there's a guy i haven't meet yet (a potential dating partner) who said he knows a guy in the mold remediation business, so i suppose if i wanted to get some testing done, i could turn to that guy as well.

All in all, i feel a little buoyed by all these people around me who each can lend a helping hand. I tend to worry a lot in general, and when you're sort of isolated, staying home due to bad weather and not wanting to spend any money, whatever thoughts and feelings you have tend to get more extreme.

So I feel a little better. My body is aching sore from using that hatchet for the last 4 days and snow shoveling each and every day for the past 2 weeks. It's just incredible. Today i was shoveling to clear the area next to the foundation of the house. Water dripping from the ice dams was freezing and was backed up against the house siding about 2.5 feet high. I was afraid that when that melted, the water would again find ways inside the house, so i had to break it all up with the hatchet and then shovel it away. Not done yet, but definitely made progress. On top of that was all the snow the guys who shoveled my roof off sent crashing down on all sides of the house.

The entryway to my driveway from the road was also getting narrower and narrower. My car just barely fit through the opening and actually scratched the sides of packed ice and snow now well over my head. It was just exhausting work to keep it open. Last night, some plow driver took pity on me and pushed the entire wall of snow and ice on one side of the driveway away. Perhaps it was one of the many people who drove by any number of times and saw a small woman shoveling, shoveling, shoveling.

We're getting another foot tonight. I can't take much more snow.

10 Responses to “Feeling glum, but friends lifted my spirits”

  1. creditcardfree Says:

    I'm glad you are feeling a bit better. It will all be okay.

  2. laura Says:

    Every little bit of movement towards positive thoughts is progress! Things always work out in the end.

  3. MonkeyMama Says:

    Geez. I hope the snow cuts you a break soon! & everyone and everything else, too, for that matter.

  4. davera Says:

    Yes, I think you'll be alright with the damn ice, oops I mean, ice dam. : )

    You've been through a lot lately, so it's understandable that you've a had a few glum spells. Glad to see that you are reaching out and getting support.

    Do take care up there on a ladder balancing yourself amidst the snow and ice and trying to wield a heavy hatchet over your head. That sounds very treacherous.
    Invite that new guy over for dinner, and let him help you! (smile)

  5. Analise Says:

    Hang in there! I've always admired your resilience and your skill at problem-solving and I know you'll get through this. I think a lot of folks are feeling like you do about the snow... enough already!

  6. scfr Says:

    Are you one of the NE folks due for another blast of snow? I know you are doing the shoveling for exercise, but perhaps it's time to fire up the snow blower, and then do some exercises inside where it is warm???? Take care.

  7. mjrube94 Says:

    That's funny Davera!

    Hang in there, SMSL. I'm glad you have supportive friends around you. My sister lives outside of Boston and she is so DONE with the snow. I feel for you...

  8. FrugalTexan75 Says:

    If you have to reshedule your doctors appt again, do you think your doctor would be willing to give you a one month refill? Or even a two week one, just to give you some time?

  9. Thrifty Ray Says:

    Can you call the Cobra folks and tell them about your appt/medicine needs...and see if they wont get that paperwork processed? Sometimes the squeeky wheel...I hope that ice/snow lets up soon!

  10. Jerry Says:

    COBRA insurance can be a real headache, I hope that gets resolved for you soon. As far as the ice goes, it sounds like you have good contacts to manage the situation, at least... although it's got to be a pain in the kiester! Good luck with everything, and I hope the snow slows down soon.

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